Trying to Understand another is a basic human requirement

Quite a few years ago , I started to develop a condition where I would lose consciousness at random moments and especially when I was alone . Now, with all the knowledge at the tips of our finger you'd start to label it immediately. But, pause a moment, this isn't about the condition or figuring out labels, it's about Trying to Understanding the Human at all levels of their being.

The mere fact that I would faint, fall, and hurt myself badly only when I was alone, was first looked upon with disbelief... how can this happen only when you are by yourself ? She just at wants attention, hence she's making it up etc.

It hurt real bad as it was not something i could do anything about ... I was totally helpless.

I remember mentioning very clearly to my doctor:

I really want to be myself, have clear thoughts and be present inside this body.

Interestingly, the doctors thought I had epilepsy even though they didn't have proof through all the tests they did ...

I was put on anti-depressants and my brain activity was inhibited. I was not allowed to go out with my little children by myself. I now needed adult supervision!! I will continue what happened next in a later post but for now...

I wonder why there wasn't even one doctor who didn't recommend therapy.

They said it was psychological ... which every damn thing in this world is ... a construct of the mind !

But why was a psychological condition not real? Why do we need biological proof for meeting a human in distress ?

What is the conditioning here? That humans are only biological beings?

What happened to emotions and feelings and the fucking Mind which we brag about?... intelligent being huh 🤔 !

The disconnect I felt from all of life was what was needed to be addressed... the solution was Connection .

Trying to understand another being is a basic human thing to do.

I don't believe we can understand anyone fully. Even trying to pause, putting yourself in their situation and trying to see what they see, hear what they hear and feel what they feel is a basic human instinct.

We are born to think, feel and emote. The more and more this world becomes practical, the more and more we disconnect and loose connection with our basic human nature.

So, the next time you find someone who is feeling lost in life, sit with them and hear them out. See them for who they are in the moment (not who they should be or what they should do). Pause to connect... to hear... to understand.

Warm hugs

Deepa R Somani